Do keep us informed if your plans change and you no longer need your place. 'No-shows' can ruin the M/F ratio at a party. We DO keep a record of 'no-shows' and it may affect future party bookings. We understand that 'real life' gets in the way, cars breakdown, baby sitters let us down, emergencies happen - but we will assume that you are a time waster if you don't keep us informed. Unfortunately, the scene has a large proportion of fakes, wannabe's and time-wasters and we try our best to sift through them!
Excellent hygiene is paramount at a swingers party – this means BEFORE and DURING the party.
Guys remember, keep your nails trimmed too! Nails can snag and ruin play.
Guy dress to impress – we do not expect you to wear a 3 piece suit, but we DO expect you to have made an effort
Ladies – even though we would never expect our ladies to only wear ‘sexy’ outfits, it must be said that jeans and a blouse will make you stand out for the wrong reasons.
Only bring with you, what you can afford to lose! Not all of our venues have lockers or cloakrooms, so make sure you read the venue descriptions.
We will NOT accept any responsibility for any items lost or mislaid during a party. We have to emphasise that guests have to take responsibility for their own belongings, which can easily be misplaced as guests flit from one area to another..
Be punctual – we advise ALL guests to arrive at a party within the FIRST TWO HOURS as this is the most important time allowing guests to socialise, flirt and ‘size each other up'. Those who get to a party late, often regret it.
Mobiles are NOT allowed to be USED in any of our venues. Each venue has their own rules though. Some you may be allowed to check them in reception and some you can check them outside. Some venues allow them inside the venue as long as they're switched off (although you may as well leave them in the car / at home / at the hotel so its one less thing to lose!). Other venues don't allow phone's inside AT ALL! You will be made aware of this on your party confirmation.
Drugs are illegal. The venues that we use have NO DRUGS policy and have to abide by the law. Anyone caught using illegal drugs will be removed.
No means NO – if you feel uncomfortable or awkward then stop. Swinging should be FUN and nobody should feel pressured into doing anything
Be polite but firm – if you are refusing to play then just politely say ‘No thanks’. Giving excuses will only prolong matters and you may find that you end up talking yourself into playing!! By saying NO, sooner rather than later, you are then helping the other person out too. Don't fear you will be hurting their feelings. They will not be wasting time on you and can continue their evening chatting to people that MAY want to play with them.
Don’t become a nuisance – guests who are under the influence of alcohol or drugs, who affect other guests enjoyment WILL be removed .
Guests who have no social skills and overstay your welcome, may be asked to be removed too!
Do NOT overdo the alcohol – swinging is a very sociable pastime but we would NEVER advise ANYONE to have an excessive amount of alcohol in their system
Avoid ANYONE who IS drunk – it is a known fact that someone who is drunk CAN NOT give consent to sex
Be sociable – nobody finds a wall flower attractive. Those who get the most out of our parties, are the guests who socialise.
Remember – conversation is a TWO WAY street – it is just as important for the Couples and Ladies to start a conversation with the Single Guys.
The BMFC should be a celebration of the sexual liberation of ladies! We are always shocked at how many Couples and Ladies feel that it is the responsibility of the Single Guys to have a conversation with THEM.
Dont overstay your welcome - When you initiate a conversation, don't stay longer 5 minutes and don't talk about sex within the first 5 minutes. Overstaying your welcome will often mean that you cock-block yourself, and the people that you are talking to, if both parties aren't interested! That 5 minute conversation is literally just expressing your interest, without needing to say it! By walking away it is allowing the other person or couple to approach you, if they are interested too!
Use the dance floor – as this is where a lot of our guests start their mingling
Guys, do NOT position yourselves at the corridor / doors of the play areas in the hope that you will be invited in to play. Our experience is that this very RARELY happens - desperation is not sexy and can be seen as intimidating. Make an effort - go to the social areas and socialise!
People playing in public WANT to be watched. They do NOT want to be touched, unless they invite you to! They do not want you to give a running commentary, become a porn director, give a Mexican wave, give marks out of 10 or shove your cock in their face! Voyeurs need to keep their volume to a minimum or the 'scene' in front of you will stop!
Respect the playrooms – we expect at an ADULT party that our guests know how to clean up after they have played. There are bins and cleaning products in all of our playrooms. Leave them as you would expect to find them!
We do not have time limits on our playrooms, however we do need to remind guests that we are not a hotel and you have not hired the room for an entire evening! Therefore, we ask that you consider other guests at the party too.
Respect every guest at the party and do NOT judge who they are, how they look, the colour of their skin, what their sexual preferences are or what their sexual orientation is.
We are party organisers who run ADULT parties. We will NOT tolerate any bullying or name calling. This is not a school playground. We WILL remove guests who don't respect one another.
Respect the venue rules – every venue has their own rules (they are usually pretty standard) however some venues are close to residential areas and it is necessary to bear that in mind when leaving the party
As responsible party organisers, we obviously promote SAFE SEX however we are NOT the condom police and will NOT patrol parties to remind people to use them
Have FUN – an adult party is a very sociable affair where guests chat, dance, giggle and flirt