Attending A Party FAQ's
In short, No. Except Eureka (explained in more detail below)
As long as you are booked onto the BMFC guestlist, this entitles you to HONORARY membership to the venue on that particular night. Please don't be confused thinking that you need membership for the club too - this will only make your night even more expensive. PLUS it will only confuse things if you book with us AND the club. Think of us as a 'try before you buy' - you can always purchase club membership after you have tried the venue out. However, if you're only every going to attend on a BMFC night then you may not need club membership at all!
There is only ONE exception to this, which is EUREKA. Eureka changed their health and safety policy in 2017 which meant that EVERYONE who stepped foot through their doors had to have EUREKA membership. It is £10 annual membership that is paid direct to the venue when you attend.
Basically, people talk, laugh, dance and flirt - Some people play, some don't. Our parties are not prescriptive and not orchestrated. The guests who get the most out of their BMFC experience are the ones who manage their expectations and abide by our BMFC etiquette.
We have a specific page on the site displaying all of our tips & hints to help you maximise your BMFC experience
We always recommend that guests ether print out or have the ability to access their party confirmation. This will help with directions to get to the venue and important information like door times and prices.
It will also help as EVIDENCE that your place has been secured on the very rare occasion that your name may have accidentally missed off the guestlist. We are only human and we do make mistakes sometimes.
Guest safety is paramount and at every party the BMFC crew will ensure that our etiquette is adhered to. We also have a robust INCIDENT PROCEDURE in place that covers all areas of guest safety
We never exceed 2 Single Black Guys to every lady
Dress Code for guys
We operate an EFFORT CODE - so if you look like you have not made an effort you may be refused admission
Please check the specific venue page for guidance as some of our venues are more strict than others (it is YOUR responsibility to ensure that you are appropriately dressed)
Dress Code for Ladies
Ladies often get all stressed when thinking about what to wear - well rest assured, there is no hard and fast rule
Whilst leggings and jeans may be comfortable, it is not always a good look at a swingers party
Ladies wear a range of outfits to our parties - club gear, lingerie, fetish outfits and everything in between - remember you can rarely go wrong with a little black dress!
Our motto is, if you feel good in it, wear it ... if you feel sexy in it, chances are you will LOOK sexy in it!! ...
Fancy dress is NEVER compulsory but ALWAYS encouraged
A dress down venue is one which requires guests to change from STREET WEAR into lingerie, shorts, boxers or towel
Many guests feel that this approach makes everyone equal
Each 'dress down' venue has its own policy in relation to WHEN guests need to do so
Our parties are mainly R&B based.
We do play Charts, Old School, Reggae, Bashment, Afrobeats, Lovers Rock, Dancehall, Soul, Garage, Funky House, Salsa etc too.
We have people from all walks of life. We are NOT elite events and although we ask for your photograph when you apply to attend a party, this is NOT a 'selection process' and we do not share this with anyone.
The ladies that attend our parties range from a size 6 - 32 and the male guests range from gym fit - the cuddly bear type!
Aged from anywhere between 21-71 - although there is a separate FAQ about age range in more detail.
We have business owners, single parents, people from the medical profession, tradesmen/women, teachers etc etc..
We really do get a mix of guests of all shapes and sizes, ethnicities and ages.
Now that swinging is more accessible and more acceptable, it is evident that there are more younger people attracted to this lifestyle
The average age of our guests is 35 - however the age range is from 21 to late 60s
Attendance varies and we never guarantee specific 'numbers'. However, we have given an average attendance on each of the venue pages to give you a ROUGH idea of how many people may come.
We ALWAYS advise guests to only bring with you what you can afford to lose
We also advise guests to have a 'play bag'
This should contain
- Wet wipes
- Breath freshener
This bag can always be left in the cloak rooms or lockers
Mobiles phones can NOT be USED in ANY of our parties and anyone caught using one WILL be treated as a reporter and removed from the venue immediately
If you want to be successful at ANY Adult party then we advise that you turn up within the FIRST TWO HOURS
This is what we call the SOCIAL HOURS and is in our opinion the most important time
Guests turning up AFTER then, are immediately playing catch up as everyone has already started to flirt and enjoy eachother's company
Please check the individual venue page as some of the venues operate a card payment facility
Drugs are against the law and we do not condone anyone using them
Any guest caught using them on the venue premises will be removed
We encourage guests to monitor their alcohol consumption and ensure that they do not become a pest
Guests who are a nuisance WILL be removed
Smoking inside a public building is against the law - all of our venues have a designated smoking area
Please check the venue specific page to see which venues allow e-cigs within their club
As a reputable party organiser, we encourage safe sex, however we organise ADULT PARTIES and therefore expect our guests to be adult enough to make their own decisions
We are NOT the condom police and we will NOT walk around a party informing guests to put on a condom
We do! As long as we met and we can be 100% sure that you were at our party, then we would be delighted to leave you a verification.
Please email us using the email address you booked in with, which we will cross-reference with our guestlist attendance.
We would need your fab name too (obviously).
We are always grateful for Club Reviews too - hint hint!